I've been in the lifestyle as much as I could off and on since 2003. Publicly out since 2014/2015. Im always evolving and learning new things. Education trumps everything. The best way to get to know someone is to ask but this section gives you a little look into me.

Someone wise told me bdsm is like cake and sex is like ice cream. They’re not the same thing, you can enjoy each separately and you can enjoy them together. Just keep that in mind as you journey through the lifestyle.

I am an Ineffable Dominant. The Ineffable Dom is typically a Dominant who has been in the D/s lifestyle for several years or longer and has, mostly through trial and error, learned what does and doesn’t work best in his D/s relationships. He has consciously explored and borrowed traits and characteristics from the other Dominant categories. The synergy created with each new partner brings new facets to the Ineffable Dom’s unique (and sometimes indescribable) Topping style.